Request to all ladies..

 Request all the Ladies to spare a few minutes - read the below message carefully and think about it . 

One friend.. 3 years earlier crossed 50..

Just about 8 days later an ailment was the excuse and a condolence message  on the group ...Sad .. she is no more ...  *RIP* 

Two months later I called her husband. A thought crossed my mind ..he must be devastated. Her spouse had a travelling job. Till her death she would oversee everything.. home.. education of their children... Taking care of the aged in-laws.. their sickness.. managing relatives..   _*everything,  everything, everything*_ 

She would express at times..my house.. my family needs me.. but should we not get appreciation... why are we taken for granted?

I called up. I thought her hubby must be lost.. to be responsible for evetything.. aging parents, Kids, loneliness at this age.. how must he be managing?

The cell phone rang for some time..the mind was perplexed.. After an hour he returned the call.. He apoligised that he could not receive the call.. He had started playing tennis for an hour at his club and meeting friends ensured he had a good time. He took a transfer to Pune.

"All well at home? " I asked, 

He replied, he had hired a cook .. he paid her a little more and she would buy the groceries and provisions. He had hired *full time caretaker* for his aging parents. "Managing.. have to ..etc.. " ....

I barely managed to say a couple of sentences and we hung up.

Tears welled up my eyes.

She was immovable from my vision. She had missed the school reunion for minor ailment of her mother in law.

Always looking forward for some appreciation and some applause.. she always said 

Today I feel like telling her..

No one is indispensable.

And no one will be missed.. it is just the play of our mind.

Perhaps it is the consolation.. A symbol of our understanding if you would like to call it that... That's the problem of putting others first.

You have taught them that YOU COME SECOND 

 *Reality bytes* :

 _After her death *two more maids* were hired and the house was in order_

We only measure our respect and our value.. ain't that true?

Then do enjoy life.. Remove the frame of mind that I am indispensable and without me the house will suffer..

 My message to all Ladies : 

Most importantly make time for *yourself* .. the *ME* time.. the time for the self..

 Get in touch with your girlfriends... Talk, laugh and enjoy

 Live your passion, live your life  

 Once in a while do things that love to do ...

 

 Don't look for your happiness in others, *you too deserve some happiness* because if you are not happy you cannot make others happy 

 Everyone needs you, and you too need your own care and love 

 Women should come forward to help and guide other women who are unable to handle their personal stress and give them a hand to uplift their confidence 

Let us HELP Ourselves and make this *LIFE WORTHWHILE*  

 we all have only one life to live,,(thro Whatsup)